Five signs you need to 'cut off' your toxic partner, according to relationship expert
Relationship coach and therapist Anna Williamson has shared the reasons you may want to cut the person you're seeing off, and it's because you could be giving them all the benefits of a relationship with no commitment
A coach and relationship expert has shared the "five reasons they're keeping you around," and it could be seriously illuminating for your current situation with your partner or potential partner. Dating can be a minefield, and it can be tricky to figure out exactly what you want from somebody. But you could be inadvertently giving someone all the benefits of being with you, without their full commitment.
Anna Williamson, a relationship coach, therapist and Celebs Go Dating dating agent, captioned her video: "Do you have these five signs in a relationship?" If you do, it may be time to cut off your toxic partner and work on yourself.
"Five reasons they're keeping you around, even though they give the bare minimum," Anna started the video by sharing.
1. You're an option
First off, she said that they might be "keeping you around as a potential option, just in case they feel they might be ready to commit".
This means that if they do decide they want to be in a relationship with just you, "you're there and waiting".
This is a situation that nobody wants to be in, as people want to be another person's first choice, rather than one of many in a race.
2. It makes them feel good
Anna explained that "having you around boosts their ego and makes them feel wanted".
If you're giving someone exactly what they want with words of affirmation and more, but they can keep you at arm's length, then it's a win-win for them as they're getting the best of both worlds.
Ego boosts are lovely, and it's nice to hear nice things about yourself. But if you're not getting the energy reciprocated, it may be time to switch things up and move on.
3. They get all the emotional benefits
If they don't have to "put in any work" but are getting "all the emotional benefits from you," then why would they decide to take things to the next level and commit?
Relationships should never be one-sided, so if you're not getting back what you're putting in, it could be time to walk away from the situation.
4. They're keeping their options open
Many people, when in the first stages of a relationship, like to keep their options open "just in case," but this isn't a fair way to treat people.
If you're acting as though you're in a relationship with someone, but then not giving that commitment, it isn't ideal. If you're waiting for "somebody better to come along," then maybe you need to accept that your current partner isn't the one for you.
5. They're bored
Being bored is not a reason to string people along; however, sometimes this is the exact reason why someone would keep you around.
Anna said: "They're bored, and it's rather nice having the attention that you are giving them, just for whenever they want it".
Did any of these ring true for you? Let us know in the comments...