57 Easy LANGUAGE PATTERNS Ready to

Use
good morning the goal of this video is

to give you something very easy to use

something very easy to apply some

language patterns that are already ready

to apply you won't have to know any kind

of theory behind all the how the

language works behind how exactly this

ALP pattern works and how does that

relate to at the other one it is just a

few phrases that you can use right away

no matter what is the situation of the

problem you want to solve with your

persuasion skills it was designed to be

the pall of the pain coursed I was

designing and algae and I thought ok

let's just put it for free so I just

wanted to give you give you guys that

for free there are examples of the

Milton model inside those those 57

language patterns there are examples of

the metamodel there are examples of the

sleight of mouth model of the sub

modalities overlapping language and tons

of other stuff but the point is none of

it is explained in theory it is just

very brutally ready to use so you will

just have to read to just take the ones

you like and just how to apply them

there already for this for people who

don't really have time for theory who

want to move faster in life so you can

pick any of them and you can just pick

them in the description I have put all

of them and put the according link to

which moment of the video I am

describing them you can either just pick

them and stop the video now or you can

listen to the explanation of how exactly

to use those patterns in which situation

and how they should be used or you can

just jump right away from the links in

the description you can ships just jump

into any one of damage that you like or

any of the ones you don't really

understand and you can't you could just

come back to it later on as you want

there are two main ways of learning

those anguish patterns the ones you have

in the description there are two main

ways the first one will be to instead of

memorizing because I don't believe in

any way in contrast memorization I think

it is a huge waste of time as in school

as it is in other other aspects of life

I think it is much more about

kinesthetic intuition if I can put it

that way

the idea would be to not memorize but

use all of them you

all of them on yourself is the first way

of learning them yeah take a problem you

have maybe you have a problem at your

job right now maybe you have a problem

with the anxiety maybe you're really

stressed maybe you have a problem with

you or in your relationship with your

girlfriend boyfriend whatever or with

your parents your kids just take a big

problem you have right now and use all

of those language patterns to see to

notice you here how this how those

language patterns are shifting the

problem and there is at least two or

three of them or even 1020 but let's say

two or three at least two or three of

them that are going to help you in ways

you didn't anticipate because this what

is whole language there's all whole

language patterns do is shifting your

perception and shifting your the way

your neural synapses are connected to

find new solutions that you open

possibilities because people curse

themselves all day long with their own

limitation through language with this

kind of language in this video you can

open possibilities instead of

restricting it so by using all of those

patterns on yourself for your specific

problem curiously you will notice a

shift at some point either a kinesthetic

shift or you will have an moment a sound

of aah like this or maybe you will see

the solution appearing in your mind one

of those usually this majorly a

kinesthetic shift that is a breathing

relief of like this because you have

just asked a question you needed to

reframe to reshape the problem and you

will see clearer in your mind after

doing it but and just by doing this you

will have such an imprint in your body

that it will be so much simpler to use

it in your real life because it will be

simpler to memorize to remember it if

you have had yourself a huge shift with

it just trying to memorize them one by

one by you by repeating them in your in

your hand like this is a huge waste of

time okay stop trying to memorize them

just use them on yourself and your own

countries will perfectly know which ones

to use and which ones not to use for

your specific situation

the second major way of your learning

that is to just be if you don't want to

use them on yourself

or if you don't take it this means that

it is something that is going to help

you just pick two or three of the ones

you like just came through the in the

description or just follow the whole

video and just pick two or three you

like you really like you know how you

could use them and start in the next

three days for the next three days you

just your goal is to place them in as

many conversations as possible is to use

them in a conversation as many times as

possible no matter who you are

interacting with no matter who is the

person in front of you no matter what is

the topic of the conversation your goal

is to use those two or three language

patterns as many times as possible

so it is the two major ways of your

learning them just pick the one you like

and enjoy and before we get into the

actual description of what they are and

how they should be used there are a lot

of them where I have been writing down

if like if you just had three wishes if

you if it was easy to okay whenever I

write if whenever I were I started rang

which pattern by if you can also replace

it by when if is much more softened it

is much more smooth and it is much

easier to make it acceptable by the

person if there is some lack of rapport

however if you already have a lot of

rapport of the person in front of you

then you can simply use when when it's

much more direct

when is really directing the directing

the mind of the person or as eath is

much smoother and will be much better if

there is some huge tension with the

person or the person is not really in a

rapport with you yet so let's get into

it the first one what is it like when

you this one could be used to create a

state that you evoke a state to evoke an

old memory of some solution what is it

like when you find solutions easily what

is it like when you're completely

motivated what is it like when you when

you completely agree with somebody what

is it like when you drop the tensions

and start to feel a relief no matter

what is the state you want to create you

want to induce you can use that phrase

to trigger it maybe I'm going to use

some details in the first ones that I'm

not going to use in the next one

because I will have already been

repeating it for 50 times and the next

one have you ever is kind of this kind

of the same idea just a different way of

saying it and a lot of those language

patterns would be kind of the same thing

but said differently so that you can

really choose the one that fits the most

your own way of communicating because

maybe some words sound resonate better

in your ears and some doesn't don't

resonate it the right way so like

between what is it like when you and

have you ever you just pick the one you

enjoy the most

so have you ever have you ever felt

joyful have you ever been able to get

over a limitation have you ever been

able have you ever bought something you

really enjoyed in a sales meeting to

close the deal have you ever enjoyed

something you have just bought have you

ever went home and you realize how cool

it was to have both the thing you have

just both for example just one random

example don't have to use this one

number three I wonder if I wonder if is

kind of an embedded question in the

Melton model I wonder if it is used to

ask a question but that could be too

directed to ask directly to the person I

wonder if you could just quit that

person the toxic person you're linked to

in a kind of the toxic relationship with

a parent with a boyfriend with or

whatever I wonder if you could just

leave that person for good it is a way

of asking a difficult question but that

is putting up much less resistance from

the person or at least the question is

much less likely to put a resistance

into the person because it is softened I

wonder if you are pretexting asking

question to yourself or at actually you

are asking question to the subconscious

of the person listening to you number

four what is it what is the most

important thing for you in this one is

what we call a value elicitation what is

the most important thing for you in

in life what is the most important thing

for you in a career in your job you

could ask that question if you're some

some head enter and you are trying to

find the best person for them for the

job

you could you could ask this what is the

most important thing for you in your job

in a career in a career and then you

would you would find out if that person

really have the values that are matching

the company you want to hire him for for

example number five if you could simply

this one is another way of throwing a

lot of embedded commands if you could

simply let go of your tension if you

could simply let go of all this anxiety

if you could simply start to tell me how

much you love that person whatever just

it's a way of inserting some embedded

command remember six or the use of or

use of or is what we call the double

bind you're going to present two

different choices but those two choices

are just leading to the same conclusion

it is certain by using or between two

choices you're lowering once again the

amount of potential resistance that

person may have because you are

appearing as offer your choice

so what kind of resistance should be put

against you if you just offer choice

you're trying to force say do you want

to do you want to enjoy that video

entirely or do you prefer to enjoy it

step by step and come back to it later

in any case I am going to make you watch

the whole video it is sure that I am

offering a choice and illiterate oice

between two things that are going anyway

to the same result

you could ask somebody in a therapy

context you prefer to learn you prefer

and you prefer to learn how to do how to

deal with your anxiety or do you prefer

to handle your problem in the way you

would never have anxiety again both

cases thing is the same thing you guys

do the same same result but since you're

framing it as a question separated by or

between two ideas then the conscious

manner the person will have much less

resistance against you if if there was

some number 7 my best friend Todd told

this one is in the whole family of

quotes and maybe or sometimes metaphors

to quoting somebody else destroys

completely the resistance and I think it

is the one of the patterns I have used

where I have kind of never encountered

any resistance or like maybe one out of

100 times is really unlikely because

when you are not saying stating directly

something it is very difficult for the

conscious man of the person to refute

what you say especially if the person

you are quoting is a source of authority

my friend Todd may not be a source of

authority or my friend Kevin or my

friend my friend Janet or whoever you

will talk about in the best case to

quote somebody who is a source of

authority that way the conscious mind of

the person would once again have much

less resistance diminish of the

resistance if I tell you you should

believe that hypnosis is good for you

maybe you just think that I don't know

what I'm talking about and you don't

want to believe me completely if I start

to say Milton Erickson was explaining

how hypnosis can help you and if on top

of that you know who Milton Erickson is

oh then it is then there's the statement

of suggestion on giving has much more

weight because it comes from somebody

who is knowledgeable in and a claim the

source of authority on the topic so you

can adapt that with whoever person you

know who is the source of authority in

the topic of the conversation you have

number eight when you say to yourself

when you say to yourself is a way of

suggesting of programming the inner

voice of the of the of the person you're

interacting with of the object subject

when you say to yourself it would be

included in the you know in a series of

statements like the thing with hypnosis

is that it is really helpful because

blah blah blah just random thoughts

about it and at some point you would

switch to the pronoun and you would say

you know it is like when you say to you

so that it is like when you say to

yourself that you want to experience a

state of letting go and you don't know

yet how to do it experience the state of

letting go it is an embedded command but

by using the word whistle phrase say to

yourself

when you say to yourself you are

intuitively programming the mind of the

person to repeat phrase of the

background you know it's like when you

say to yourself that bla bla bla if the

person trusts you he or she will

probably start to repeat the phrase in

the back of his mind as long as there is

rapport between the two of you repeating

the phrase in his mind that way it would

be like a TV commercial it would play in

the background if you program correctly

the inner voice of that person you would

play the inlet of command again and

again and again up to the point where

the person just acts upon what you have

been programming you either hypnotist

that's what I get all the time number

nine if you had just three wishes this

one this one is the one that I like to

use to uncover more of the internal map

of the territory of the person if you

just had three wishes if you just if you

were just meeting some genius and you

just had three wishes some how is it

called not green lantern those guys from

the movie I remember but some genius

with a girl who is there like the blue

guy in Aladdin who is giving you three

wishes and you just ask the person if

you just had three wishes in the world

where would it be or were in were in a

more specific situation if you just had

three wishes with your situation at hand

with your partner or with your

relationship with your job it's just

hard three wishes what would it be it

could be anything you want in an

imaginary world what what would it be it

will allow you to understand much more

of who exactly are talking to you what

exactly is the internal wall of the

person what kind of beliefs and values

or attached to that person and are

attached to the limitation if you're in

the therapy context or attached to the

limitation of that person it's kind of a

way to uncover a lot of things like this

if you had to describe a number-10 if

you had to describe it without without

without using the word pain for example

just if you had to describe this problem

you have without

complaining how would you describe it if

you had to describe this problem you

have without talking about that person

like a guy who has a confident with his

father if you had to describe the

problem without naming your father

what would you be describing the way you

would shift into tension of the problem

back on the person who is stating that

he has a problem it is very powerful to

help the person to take the

responsibility back over his feelings

and over his States over his beliefs so

that he can start to change change them

by himself
and not any more complaining about some

outside source that he doesn't have any

control pawn like your father is an

alcoholic

yeah like there's nothing you can do

about it but you can shift your feelings

about it and what you think yourself

about it

this is something you can change but

changing somebody else who doesn't want

to be changed no it's like very unlikely

it's not impossible

so if you had to describe it without it

with just open possibilities to force

the person to think in a different way

make his mind go in a different

direction and make him use his word his

language in a way that empowers him and

lets him see that the limitation he

thought he had may actually not even be

a limitation maybe he was just a

self-imposed limitation which is

actually always the case like never

everybody who going to therapy just had

self-imposed limitations it's never an

actual physical limitation or almost no

almost never number 11 what is your

intention when you this one comes more

from the sleight of mouth model or it

could also be described as a classic

reframing method if what is your

intention when you do this or that what

is the intention of that part of you the

bid was to know yeah it was the next one

what is it what is your intention when

you what is your intention when you

complain about your boss

what is your intention when you when you

cry what is your intention when you

complain about your boyfriend about your

girlfriend what is your intention when

you when you came to me for me asking me

to help you what was your intention by

doing this it is kind of once again

uncovering the inner wall of the person

to understand much more what are the

hidden beliefs associated with the

problem you are dealing with right now

all the overall conversation you have

right now what are the hidden

assumptions linked to that situation

right now number 12 which part of you is

so it is also kind of the link to the

whole reframing idea which part of you

is responsible for this problem like you

have a smoking problem ah

which part of you is responsible for

this which part of you is making you

smoke which part of you is allowing you

to maintain that negative behavior of

smoking which part of you is making you

so good at craving smoking lots of ways

of reframing the actual limitation and

make it and turn it into a potential

solution or at least opening the

possibilities that whedon that will lead

to a solution so which part of you is

like this dissociated dissociating the

person from his problem from there you

can start to make him talk about his

problem as just being one part of him

and not anymore I I am an alcoholic

I am and I am an addictive person no

there is an addictive part of myself so

if it is only an addictive part of

yourself then how can you deal with that

much easier because if you are into a

stuck state that's very difficult if it

is just a small part of you now you can

start to notice from the outside and

what can I do with this it's much much

easier that way number thirteen can you

imagine if any negative consequence can

you imagine if and you can play with the

negative consequence this one is two is

linked to what we call the scrooge

pattern that Tony Robbins was doing a

lot letting people imagine something

very negative that is going to happen in

their life if they maintain the negative

behavior they have if you eat too much

if you're an overweight person if you

eat too much can you imagine if you go

on if you like this for the next ten

years what is going to happen exactly

can you imagine a like a toxic

relationship can you imagine if that

person keep

and keeps making you struggling if that

person keeps imposing his own or her own

rules upon you what is going to happen

years from now just helping the person

to see how bad is it it is going to be

in the future if he doesn't act now so

something Bandler has Madame from a lot

of people he had interviewed who could

get over a phobia or a another old

problem by themselves with no help just

by themselves he modeled that one of the

main the essential components was they

got so fed up of that problem they

couldn't stand it anymore and said

goodbye so by pushing the pain a little

bit and this is really this can be

tricky depending on the situation so I

wouldn't recommend that one for every

possible problem it depends on your

experience what kind of who is exactly

the person what is it the personality of

the person you have in front of you

there's a lot of factors to it but it is

one way

pushing the pain up to a point or the

person cannot stand it anymore and

realize that no no I have to act today

now not tomorrow not one year from now

today it's one way of shifting the focus

by helping people to get away from pain

because the pain would become too

overwhelming for them and also because

if somebody is maintaining a paint

thinning of paint for a long time there

is some positive intention behind there

is something positive about it otherwise

your mind would just drop it and which

has have been dropping it long ago what

prevents you from this one it comes from

the metamodel

number 14 what prevents you from from

the metamodel what prevents you from

this one is usually used with model

operators like I cannot I cannot feel

confident I cannot succeed in my job I

cannot pass my exam I cannot be happy in

a relationship what prevents you from it

what prevents you from being confident

what prevents you from being happy in

your relationship what prevents you this

one is used is very useful to to break

that generalization

and shifting the focus on what is

actually the belief behind that there is

some belief associated with the with the

situation at hand what exactly is that

and I cannot be happy in a relationship

instead of asking why because with why

we'll just have conscious

reasons you can start to ask what

prevents you from what prevents you from

being happy in the way you want what

prevents you from making that that

amount of money every month what

prevents you from getting out of debt

what preowned I know this one may be

tricky for some people I know sorry

sorry sometimes it can be useful what

prevents you from from telling your your

boss you shut up

losing your job and so what what's gonna

happen so this one is very helpful to

deal with limitations again what

prevents you from number 15

some people can again some very basic

mutant model way of using embedded

commands some people can feel completely

grateful for what they have all day long

why not you immediate command feel

grateful all day long some people can

feel grateful of day all day long number

16 for the sake of my understanding it's

one is a great like it is the the same

the same the same idea as I wonder if

like the embedded question for the sake

of my understanding it is about

softening the idea softening the idea

you want to communicate for the sake of

my understanding can you tell me why you

cannot succeed at your job

for the sake of my understanding could

you explain to me what is going wrong in

that relationship you have just to

understand once again what is beneath

the surface what all the things the

person doesn't want to talk about but

asking for it in a much more soft in a

way so the person wouldn't get defensive

the person would be much more open to

communicate about it with you

because you have been softened for the

sake of my understanding could you

explain to me these that always keep a

soft on a voice like a friendly tone of

voice would be much easier

if it was a number 17 if it was easy to

opening possibilities in the mind again

if it was easy to overcome your problems

tomorrow what would it look like if it

was easy to tell your boss to shut the

up what would how would you do it

if it was easy to start a new life where

would you start just to open the

possibility just to open the imagination

because the imagination is much more

powerful than knowledge

actually the phrase I have just here

imagination is more more important than

knowledge knowledge is limited

imagination encircles the world thank

you because whatever you can imagine you

can consider whatever the mind can

conceive you can achieve it so if you

can just make the person imagine

something he or she thought was

impossible you have already won almost

so if it was easy to do this I'll do

that then you will just make the person

imagine which way which is an incredible

first step into making somebody change

what if it was easy to do this or that

number 18 what if you could watch my

hand starts to get number 18 what if he

could what if you could kind of when I

when I said what prevents you from it

was about the model operators in the

metamodel and it was about turning the

attention on the past what prevents she

or what has been preventing you from

from doing this from studying in your

life whatever by saying what if you

could or what would happen if you could

what would happen if your turn you're

doing the same thing shifting a model

operator that is used for limitation but

you're shifting it on the future this

time what prevents you from is to

shifting on the past and what if you

could is shifting on the future what if

you could once and for all say shut up

to your boss what what if you could once

and for all what if you could what would

happen if you were changing your country

what would happen if you were finding

the job of your dreams

what would happen it's just to break all

the statements of I cannot I must not

like I must not quit my job what would

happen if you would what would happen if

you were actually quitting your job what

would happen just to gather some

information and maybe this question is

not going to lead to a positive solution

but at least you will get closer to it

because you will make the mind of the

person move in a different direction and

sometimes by asking all those kinds of

questions you don't actually get the the

powerful solution and the actual moment

but you make the person think so much in

different ways then the day after or two

days later he would find a solution by

himself because you have been helping

him to move his mind so many different

directions that it becomes usually

easier number 19 number 19 how does how

does this can mean that also coming from

the metamodel how does how does this

mean that it is about reframing cause

and effect limitations which are

basically beliefs once again once you

haven't covered a very negative belief

you can you can reframe it and change

his its negative aspects by asking how

does this means that a very simple one I

was using all the time with this one is

I have always been polyamorous I have

always been with multiple women and

always in an honest way always

communicated communicating about it with

complete honesty from the beginning

never lie to anybody always complete

honesty now sometimes when I talk about

this with some girls and they tell me

but when you love somebody it's not it's

impossible to be with with other people

which is a belief because like

genetically speaking you can perfectly

be in love with several people but for

somebody who would be trying to drag me

down with this kind of statement I would

simply ask how does how does being in

love prevents you from loving other

people and then like 90 percent of the

time I would just get a plain face of

uh-huh

actually I guess you're right yeah of

course I'm right and for the other ones

I just needed one or two more questions

and I just braid their belief I just

well I don't I don't try I don't I don't

want to make them change their mind

about their own relationship but I want

to make them accept that now I can this

I can do something they cannot do and

that it is my right to do it even if

they don't like it as long as I don't

hurt anybody I had the right to do

anything I want so this is why it was a

great way I had to reframe this

limitation like it's impossible to have

multiple Asian ships how does having one

relationship prevents you mean that you

cannot have other ones how does having

one partner means that you cannot have

any other ones how exactly how exactly

do you prove that in your internal world

and when you ask questions like this

people will just you just get blocked or

like how being a Democrat means you are

a piece of or on the rivers how

being a Republican means you're a piece

of like it's just linked to believe

to internal beliefs

it's just subjective there is nothing in

itself by itself that is proving that

it's just your subjective reality anyway

the next one number 20 number 20 in a

world where they saw that is possible in

a world where quitting the job quitting

your job in anywhere anytime you want is

possible in a world where magic wands

are existing what would you do with it

in a world where in a world where every

parent would be loving in the tension 8

how would you have been raised up rised

up how would you have been growing up

for the case of somebody who'd have had

trouble with his parents in a world

where your parents would how always have

been loving with you what would be

different today and then once again you

open possibilities you just make him

imagine sure I could I could behave that

way good so why don't you do it just do

it it's just out doing it now it's time

to do it number 21 if the goal was

actually to this one is from the side of

mouth another outcome pattern if the

goal was actually not what you have been

trying to do but something else

example if the goal in a conflict with

somebody

very simple in a in a context where

somebody is a having an argument with

you if the goal if the goal was actually

to find one thing we agree upon what

would it be if the goal was not to argue

against each other but to actually find

one thing we can agree on what would it

be and start from there start from the

least possible piece of thing I think

you are agreeing with you are agreeing

on with the person in front of you that

way will be so much simpler than to find

positive agreements for whatever other

topic you have number 22 isn't it more

important to this one is called a

hierarchy of criteria in the style of

mouse model isn't it more important to

like same thing if we just have an

argument for hours and hours isn't it

more important to care about what we

love than just fighting about what we

hate really isn't it more important or

you can you can fries that phrase that

as a question as an open-ended question

what is the more import what is what is

more important to you than fighting

against me what is more important to you

than fighting against that person if you

have a sound like some guy who is always

fighting with his girlfriend what would

be even more important to you than

proving who is right among you and your

between you and your girlfriend all the

reverse between you and your boyfriend

what would be even more important isn't

it more important to maintain a healthy

relationship and rise your kids in the

proper way rather than knowing who is

supposed to to wash the dish every night

there are things like this you can just

move the mind in different directions

with this number 23 I am not telling you

to I am not telling you to go into a

trance right now very classic one for

coming from the Milton model again I am

not telling you to this or that it is a

negation that allows you to throw

embedded commands again I am not telling

you to trust me to the point of letting

go completely

I am only telling you to start to listen

to me in the way that is going to shift

your mind

just I am not telling you to he lowers

the resistance because on the conscious

level

oh he's not telling me oh cool I'm

relieved mm-hmm but on the unconscious

level I am programming the mind I am not

telling you to this or that number 24 if

your best friend was in the same

situation I really like that one this

one it is about perceptual position if

somebody else was in your situation what

would he do differently and usually the

best friend is a good example it's a

good thing because usually most people's

best friend has a lot of resources and

solutions and good ideas when you are

when you're last

what is the one of the first things you

do it is calling your best friend

because you are lost you don't know

anymore what to do so asking the

question if your best friend was in the

same situation what would he do or what

would she do if your best friend was in

that situation what would happen what

would have not happened already if your

best friend had always been in this in

that situation from the beginning

instead of you what will have been

different so far and because it is the

best friend is really easy to find what

kind of mental patterns that person

could be using because it is your best

friend so you know a lot of things about

him or her so it's really easier to ask

that question to somebody if you had

been growing up with different parents

which one would be were essentially for

the case of somebody having conflicts

with his parents if you had been growing

up with different parents why would be

different okay the person gives you an

answer you listen to it you pay

attention you listen carefully and you

accept the answer what if your way you

had been growing up with different

parents and once you get the answer you

can simply ask okay right what prevents

you from doing that right now from

living that way from experiencing that

right now because if you can phrase it

with the word like it like I just did it

means your mind is able to conceive it

so if your mind is able to consider it

then what is preventing you from doing

it or from doing it on a constant basis

and you will get much deeper into the

limit into the core of the

imitation bye-bye am I asking this maybe

you won't get the solution just with

this single question but you will get

closer to the core of the the problem

and maybe by getting to the core of the

problem you will encounter something

that you that you didn't even anticipate

and that the person did not anticipate

neither in therapy and coaching very

often what were morning therapy coaching

is usually about scaling to something

bigger and therapy is usually by dealing

with something bothering in the prison

or dealing with something bothering in

the past it's just by own model but it

is a model I like so listen to it please

by getting asking questions like this

you will discover sometimes that people

come forward for problem to you people

come and ask you about the problem but

actually what they need has very often

nothing to do with what they want with

what they ask you for unless they know

NLP they have been trained to recognize

their own subconscious patterns and

stuff like this or trauma relays or

stuff like this otherwise very very

often when people ask you like I want to

quit smoking no actually they don't want

to quit smoking they want something they

want to deal with the cause that is

provoking different symptoms and one of

those symptoms is smoking this is a much

better way of thinking about this people

never come because they have a food

addiction or porn addiction or because

they they smoke too much they come

because there is some negative thing in

there in their mind and in their life

that is causing those negative symptoms

and this is what they need

but it is very often way too buried

beneath the surface for you to really

for them to really mobilize it right

away when they come to you if you are a

therapist or hypnotist or coach NLP

coach and a practitioner coach you know

my point on this practitioners

somehow really good but not many anyway

how many words and whatever was I not

telling you - you sure about this number

26

how many words do you know for I love

this one how many words do you know for

pain or the person say my problem is

that I am always way too angry okay how

many words do you have for anger how

many words do you have for angry and by

shifting the through different synonyms

or if the person speaks different

languages you can make him verbalize the

word all the words in two different

languages because every word has a

kinesthetic and core to it or like most

words in your language have kinesthetic

enkorz somebody might say I love freedom

not freedom but I love power

I love having power some person might

think that power equals Hitler okay

everybody has a different definition for

vague words so instead of just debating

upon some very vague word like somebody

telling you I have an anger problem or

like I have a concentration problem and

you might say yeah but actually if you

ought to consider it you're too focused

and to concentrate it on this thing you

might lose completely your family

because you would forget them because

you would be to focus on your job

something like this just to explain that

everybody has a different definition for

some words like I need more

concentration some people could have

disagreement or conflict upon the word

concentration losing my words so by

asking how many different words do you

have for this it will probably fall upon

one that opens possibilities once again

fall upon a version of that word or of

that limit a limitation a related word

that the person is imposing interior

unto himself that will open

possibilities and solutions once again

so how many different words do you know

for describing your problem right now

how many different ways do you have of

describing it number 27 I really love

this one 10 years from now how will you

remember this one and today for example

I love all those ten years from now one

year from now tomorrow back in the day

because it is shifting the perception of

time your unconscious basically doesn't

have any understanding of time something

really really bad may have been

happening to you six months ago and you

could still remember and you could still

be scare the out of this thing

could still scare the out of you as

if it was happening now even though it

was six months ago so

conscience doesn't have any

understanding of time and for that

reason you can always shift the

perception of somebody just by changing

the tenths of your words just by

changing the times of your verbs ten

years from now how will you remember

shifting the perception this limitation

you have right now ten years from now

when it will be over ten years from now

when it will be over how will you

remember today it is like a time

distortion double distortion you make

the person going to the future you

making you making the thing back of

today that we create so many different

representations that were not that that

were not dedi there yet that the person

will be like almost overwhelmed with new

choices well this one I never encounter

encountered any kind of resistance

neither the quotes end time distortion

double distortion never encountered any

resistance from people probably with

this number twenty nine one year from

now how bad is it gonna be linked to the

scooch pattern again one year from now

how bad this smoking habit is gonna be

like to make to create some added pain

that is going to help the person get

into the propulsion system that is going

to make him go out of this pain like a

Buttkicker a little bit of butt-kick to

help the person realize how shitty his

life is gonna be if it doesn't act today

it's kind of a helpful sometimes number

thirty I'm not telling you to I probably

wrote this one twice sorry about that

number twenty-one just deal with that

number 2131 the best way I know of the

best way I know the best way I know of

going into a trance the best way I know

of dealing with a problem like yours the

best way I know of letting the tensioned

ropes the best way I know of loosening

of loosening up and dealing with all

those stress stressful situations

immediate comments just the best way I

know of

bla bla bla am billet commands very

simple stuff number 32 when I when I had

a similar problem I

okay when I had a similar problem I did

what just if you know the solution but

it would be too difficult for the person

to think that it is that simple

you could talk about it almost like

quoting yourself like using a metaphor

but with yourself when I had a similar

problem than yours

Robert the way I dealt with that the way

I handled it was in and you just give

the process that person needs to

overcome the problem the way I dealt

with dealt with that was by imagining

that I was seeing myself on a screen and

being able to shift the movie as if I

was director and I would reprogram my

own mind like this and blah blah blah

you're just making the person integrate

that the change is possible through the

Association for example of this one it's

very powerful number 33 could you be

more specific when somebody is giving

you way too abstract words I'm stressed

all the time over to Gina generalized

I'm stressed all the time nobody loves

me my boyfriend always makes me unhappy

or my girlfriend always makes me unhappy

can you be more specific

how exactly do you know that for example

could you be more specific it will allow

you to once again get all of the beliefs

and prepositions associated with with

that problem it is also generally

speaking the metamodel when you know the

metamodel but you don't know exactly

which part of the metamodel you should

apply on this person then just say could

you be more specific please for the sake

of my understanding could you be more

specific about these of that number 34

if you had to describe it to an alien I

love this one if you had to describe it

to an alien

describe it to an alien who doesn't know

about how human work how the human

world works describing it to an alien

who has never been on planet Earth

how do you describe that he will train

the person to use different words

different terminologies to shift as I

said the kinesthetic end course to the

words he has because if you have to

describe your problem to somebody who

doesn't know what

humans are you would need to use much

more flexible language to be able to

make that person that alien understand

the problem therefore you will train you

to shift your representations we by

using your language in a different way

number 35 if you had to describe this

problem without words which can be

linked to 34 if you had to describe this

problem without words just by using your

gestures what would you do

this one has tried to kind of said

modalities overlapping because if some

Oh like synesthesia sometimes in East

Asia or similarities overlap is used to

break a limitation to user renew

resource because if somebody for example

is blocked into and on the auditory

level on the auditory level like he's

talking to himself way all day long with

some negative voices or he is hearing

his father or his teacher he's the

pastor teacher or his boss telling

about him all day long okay so the

problem is on the auditory level

listening to a voice if you had to

describe what those voices mean without

using words without using voiced

analogies how would you express it with

your body with your eyes and just this

little shift will allow the person to

access more parts of his brain because

he will have it to you he will have to

access the visual cortex to make this

representation and to access much more

of his kinesthetic body's connections to

actually create the representation so it

is kind of using sub modalities in the

brain structure to overcome limitations

to open much more possibilities much

more solutions number 30 37 a lot of

people before you have learned - this

one could be Lear similar to when I said

when I had a similar problem the way I

dealt with it was in doing this all that

a lot of people before you have learned

to this a lot of people before you have

learned how to go into a trance easily a

lot of people before you have learned to

with that procrastination problem don't

you know a lot of a lot of people before

you have learned how to control this

negative in your dialogue you're just

preparing the field preparing the mind

how it is possible so stop complaining

about it it is actually possible shut up

and listen it is possible first step

accept it it is possible now let's get

under how when somebody is too much

complaining or too much refuting you're

confronting that now is that possible

for me I'm way too up and way too

stuck people have learned a lot of

people before you have learned that even

if they were complaining that much they

could actually find a solution by doing

and then you give your process or matter

for your and believe command or whatever

38 number 38 if a 5 years old kid was

describing it kind of Oh again

shifting the words shifting the

perceptions the representations you have

about the problem if a 5 years old kid

was describing it how would he be

describing it and that way you would get

much more playful maybe much more

playful about the problem or much more

vague about the problem it could target

it could retarget your attention on some

part of the problem that you didn't

think about maybe a 5 years old kid from

the outside which I see some two adults

playing your game he doesn't know yet

how can you know you're not in his head

so how can you know so using this

perception can be really helpful because

a child sometimes has much more a much

more creative mind a much more up in

mind about how can that situation can be

solved I mean if you apply the

creativity of the child to yourself

right now

number 39 if you never had this problem

if you never had this problem what would

be different don't you think if you

never had this smoking problem what

would be different right now it is kind

I think I think of this one as a car as

a way of describing the goal the person

has in a much better way in a much more

specific way if you never had this

problem in your life what kind of life

would you have right now if the whole

time you never had you never known this

problem this smoking problem this eating

disorder problem this bad parenting

problem if you never had this

what would be different what kind of

life would we do be living right now and

you will get much more intuition much

more clues about the values of that

person but the big motivations of that

person about what he wishes he could get

in his life at this moment in time

number forty forty if there was a way to

make this problem go away tomorrow I'll

just go tomorrow if there was one simple

way of making that problem leave

tomorrow if there was a way of doing

that what will it look like how would

you do it if that was a he's there was a

very simple way a very simple way of

making that problem go away tomorrow how

would you do it would be different what

would happen after it happened time

distortion

tolling to mixing all the stuff number

forty-one number forty-one if you were

saying with my own voice how would that

sound like if you're saying this problem

you have been complaining about for one

hour if you are saying those same words

about your limitation about that you

cannot lose weight if you're saying

those words with my own voice the voice

of somebody who has already overcome

gnilova limitations how would that sound

like you would sound completely stupid

yes it is therefore what can you do with

that therefore what is what does that

change it teaches you actually if

somebody else repeating the same words

as you wouldn't have this problem

ah so what would be different between

you and that person if I could solve the

problem and not you why what would be

different between me and you I can do

that okay so how can you learn it if

it's just a skill if it is just a mental

pattern then how can you learn it what

prevents you from learning it all these

kind of destroying limitations basically

if a 5 years old kid if you are seeing

if you could look at yourself if a

number 42 if you could look at yourself

from a distance basic disassociation if

you could look at yourself from a

distance it's also the same model is of

modalities shifting language because

you're shifting the seminar it is going

from the perception of being associated

in the problem - okay the Association

and instead of directing the person's a

person conscious mind into doing this

kind of complex visualization you could

simply say what if you could look like

look at yourself from a distance and

just by using those words look at

yourself from a distance the person will

naturally will not surely dissociate

from the problem from the part of

himself that has the problem but it is

conversational so you're not directing

directing the mind in a too

confrontational way you're just

suggesting what if you could just look

at yourself on the distance number 43 if

you had to describe this problem in five

steps what would those five steps be if

you had to describe the way you smoke

too much if you had to describe your

strategy for smoking too much in five

steps what would those five steps be

that way you will get the whole mental

strategy the whole mental process of the

person for getting engaging into some

negative behavior what would those five

steps all three steps or four steps be

you would get a lot of clues and

intuition about how exactly that person

is putting himself or herself into such

a negative situation it's very good way

and also the dissociate from the problem

to number 44 if you could talk to that

part of you like if there is a part of

you that is that it's causing you to be

angry all the time if you could have a

nice talk and a friendly talk with that

part of you in a secure environment if

you could have a nice talk with that

part of you what would you say how would

you stop a conversation what would you

say to prevent any fighting what would

you say to reassure that part of you all

these kind of things number 45 if this

feeling was lighter if this feeling was

lighter some modalities shifting

kinesthetic feeling I feel stressed all

the time okay if this feeling was

lighter how would that change your

current situation if that feeling was

lighter it

feeling was so light that it is like a

pillow how would that change the

situation actually number 46 if this

voice was almost inaudible basically

there are similarities again if a voice

in your head is way too loud and like

you keeps you keep getting angry or

stressed about what somebody else told

you if that voice was how would that

change the feeling if you could just

turn down the volume of the voice how

would that change the feeling or how

would that change the limitation number

47 if you were writing a conclusion to

that story I thought that one somebody

complaining all day long somebody

complaining all the time and running

under the old same disc again and again

somebody always giving up the same

okay if you could just write a

conclusion to that story my friend what

would that conclusion be if two years

from now there was a conclusion to the

story why would it be a major conflict

okay

can you be more specific something would

be better Oh

so why not now why not why Cannot it

happen now if there was a conclusion to

the story if there was the if there was

an end a positive and or negative and

depending on what it is if there was an

end to the story what would it be how

would you act upon it differently number

48 from that new perspective this one is

kind of when you have already produced a

change when you have already produced

some kind of change and you want to make

the personal validate and expand to

change to other areas of his life or her

life from that perspective so okay now

you have you have understood why deep

reason of why do you smoke from that

perspective how can you stop smoking or

how can you reduce the amount of

cigarettes you have for example

that new perspective new is proposing

that some new behavior is possible that

it was not possible before so if

somebody came into your office and said

it's impossible for me to quit smoking I

have tried every possible way and then

you just get to reframe one part of the

limitation then you could say from that

new perspective how how do you how do

you think about the problem

things like this if you had to stall all

a number 49

number 49 if you had to start all over

again tomorrow if you had to start all

over again tomorrow from the beginning

what would you do differently if you had

to start all over again tomorrow without

this limitation with knowing what you

know now what would you do differently

this one may not cause a direct solution

but it may cause a huge relief just

imagining just having the perception of

it will be so right could be enough for

the person to find solutions by himself

just because you have removed the

negative feeling and when the negative

feeling in reading is removed

maybe the person will just come up with

his own solutions by himself he would

not even need you but you have helped

him to remove to relieve a little bit

the negative feeling for example number

50 would you give that advice to

somebody else I know this one this one

was used on on me one time it really

blew up my mind and really allowed me to

reframe a lot of limitations would you

give them advice somebody else if you

keep judging yourself or if you keep

complaining or if you keep treating your

your partner as a piece of would

you give that advice to somebody else if

there was a child watching you here

would you give that advice to that child

would you tell that child to act the way

you have been acting so far No so why do

you do it things like this would you

give that advice to somebody else it

shifts your perspective from if you are

treating yourself badly or if you are

having a very negative behavior toward

others just shifting the perspective of

would you teach somebody else to do the

same thing if no then why do you do it

and you will

to the core of the problem the core of

the limitation the core of maybe the

pain you have been holding the whole

time for example number 51 when putting

this into light this one is a slice

modality shift when somebody is like

saying things like to a dork I cannot

find I cannot find my way into this

whole darkness if you could put this

whole darkness into light what would you

do if you could put if you could

enlighten this whole situation and

lighten the situation shifting the sub

modalities and lighten the situation

what would be the first thing you would

see that you were not seeing before

before what is this new thing you're

seeing right now now that you have been

enlightening this whole situation if

that person number 52 52 if that person

had never existed when there is some

major conflict of the person with the

body by the born of the parent to the

kid if the person had never existed

what would change what would be

different if the person had never been

part of your life would you be happier

or more sad for example if some guys

complaining about his girlfriend all day

long all the reverse your friend coming

about her boyfriend if the person had

never been part of your life why would

you feel how would you feel and in that

case you would just you would only get

one of two extremes either it would be I

would be extremely sad or I would be

extremely happy if it is I would be

extremely happy then okay so why I see

with him or with her if you tell me that

that person having never been here it

would be happier then why the hell are

you still with him or with her reverse I

would be extremely sad okay so if if

when that person would have never been

here you would be sad they can you can't

you just stop complaining about some

stuff and just love that person

in the way he deserved or she deserves

okay just this question is kind of

pushing the boundaries of how far this

this limitation is going to go

if that person had never existed how

would you act differently number 53 has

there ever been a time where it's kind

of finding a counter-argument kind of a

side of mouth model - has there ever

been a time where you were not smoking

has there ever been a time where you're

happy all day long has there ever been a

time where you had friends and you were

enjoying them could that company has

there ever been a time where you're

stealing a good relationship with that

person yes okay so what is different now

exactly

more information and more solutions if

it wasn't a necessity - this one is kind

of mind-bending if it wasn't and missus

is kind of confusing if it wasn't a

necessity to feel angry all the time it

was a probably the problem is anger is a

unshakable anger the person always

feeling angry if it wasn't necessary if

it wasn't a necessity to feel that

amount of anger what would be different

if it wasn't a necessity to be that

angry if it wasn't a necessity to treat

people that badly how would you treat

them like it is shifting the perception

from I'm just stuck I just - I'm just

like this - actually I give myself I

force myself into the necessity of doing

this therefore if I have been forcing

myself I can also unstuck and unlock

myself and do something else it's like

shifting the perspective and getting

taken by the responsibility of being

able to change number 55 who made the

decision that who made the decision that

you had to can't go on smoking who made

the decision that your relationship had

to be that bad who made the decision

that you had to be that angry who made

the decision that you had to be that

anxious and is a person just answers me

why why did you start this when did you

stop this in the first place okay it is

your fault

when did you start it by the way you

will once

again shift the responsibility back to

the person it is especially useful for

people who always give away their and

the responsibility of their actions my

god it's done my faults just the economy

I've done my fault it's just my parents

it's done my fault is because my

girlfriend tortured me everything is

your fault and if anything is not your

fault in the beginning then it is your

fault of maintaining the negative

feeling you have because of it therefore

you can always at least do something

maybe not solve the whole situation

right now but at least you can always do

something about it always at least mine

off thing relieve some pressure just

calling somebody and saying your

your-your-your how what is the word not

forgiving

sorry that you're sorry you can always

do at least one single simple thing at

least one number of 56 how did you came

to that conclusion how did you came to

the conclusion that you're hopeless how

did you came to the conclusion that

there was no hope how did you came to

the conclusion that you have to maintain

that negative behavior how did you came

to the conclusion that you had to keep

fighting like a beast all the time how

did you came to the conclusion that you

had to be treated that badly what was

the process of what was the series of

decisions that led you to end get into

that negative situation in your life or

that led you to get stuck in that

situation at this current moment in your

life how did you get to the conclusion

number 57 and last one how do you know

this one is very generic whenever you

have a little people somebody giving you

a limitation whenever you have somebody

giving you some complaint some

limitation that you just don't believe

in to you or some stuck state that I

just just cannot do anything just are

its heels fault I cannot solve the

problem I'm sure I'm gonna I'm gonna

lose my job there's nothing I can do

about it how do you know that very

simple how do you know that what is the

proof how do you know that and how do

you know the reverse is not possible

neither because if you're so sure about

this how can you be so unsure that the

reverse is not possible stuff like this

and

so you have all those English patterns

you can practice them and if you want to

go further

I've got a compass covert-hypnosis

tutorial in the description in the first

thing where you have not only the

language patterns but also the whole

methodology the whole structure to use

them conversational in no matter what is

the topic of conversation and how those

words are actually influencing the

unconscious mind like those things are

just random words you can use like this

right away it will be really helpful and

in by document in description you also

have the whole structure of how exactly

those language works and how does the

language your language can use friends

or subconscious of the people listening

to you it is completely free and it is

for you

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7 Hypnotic Language Patterns for Difficult

People w/ Kevin Hogan
good day everybody welcome back my name

is Kevin Hogan I'm the author of the

science of influence twenty other books

and they've been translated into 40

other 41 other languages now around the

world it's good to have you here today

today seven hypnotic language patterns

to reduce resistance in really difficult

situations so here you are you've been

talking to this person over here and now

you're ready to get to yes but somewhere

along the line you appear to have made a

mistake or two or three or 12 and for

whatever reason the proportions to be

kind of weak and you're really trying

really hard to make sure that this

person is going to say yes so what do

you do well you have a few ways that you

can ask without increasing resistance

and to actually push a couple of pretty

cool buttons that cause compliance the

first of these is is a really neat

pattern it's called I don't know if so

it works like this I don't know if this

is right or wrong I don't know whether

or not you'd want to do this or not I

don't know if it's a good idea it seems

like it might be okay but it could also

be really dumb I really don't know see I

don't know if drops resistance

completely when you say I don't know you

say the exact opposite of what every

single person who's about to be

manipulated about to be persuaded

against their will is going to hear

they're gonna hear stuff like I know I'm

smart I learned this a long time ago you

can learn this too that's what people

hear they don't want to say yes to that

but when you say I don't know if this is

right or wrong I don't know if this

makes sense I don't know if it makes

sense to do an investment that makes 11

percent a year I don't know if it makes

sense to go over to that movie over

there that went over there I really

don't know what the best theater is

maybe you'd have an idea because I sure

don't and as soon as you admit ignorance

especially in an area that it really

doesn't matter whether you have

competence or confidence in it's a

really good way to see the resistance go

down all the defenses go down it allows

the person to now make the decision

which is exactly where you were going in

the first place it just allows that

person to make it on their own the next

really cool pattern that really reduces

resistance and really tough situations

is imagine what would happen if and then

you fill in the proverbial blank so

imagine what would happen if we did this

like now here's the thing we've already

talked to a couple of years ago about

the word imagine right we know that

imagine sort of just it doesn't drop

resistance it just lets whatever is said

next go into the into the brain and be

processed right because nobody's going

to say you're not telling a person to

buy something you're not telling them to

do something you're not even asking them

to do something you're just saying

imagine and imagine all takes place in

the brain nothing takes place out here

right so imagine what would happen if we

went over there to that store and just

looked or imagine what would happen if

we went to a really cool restaurant and

had a really nice time or imagine what

would happen if we did our business

transaction over at ciaobella

and got a chance to have some good food

while we talked business

imagine what would happen if you went to

that school instead of that school when

you go to college

see imagine what would happen if allows

you to get complete compliance of your

thought okay so the whatever thought you

want to have is going to be able to just

sink right in and there's other studies

we'll talk about them a different time

about the word imagine and how it works

it's it's really cool it sticks a long

time it's almost like triggering priming

because it's not a prime in itself but

it triggers priming to happen for

whatever you're going to suggest next so

that the person is actually predisposed

to do this not just like in this moment

which is what most hypnotic language

does but in the future a year later it's

really cool so trust me on this for now

we'll do an entire file on imagine as

far as it has to do with triggering

priming for the future because it's

brilliant but for the moment imagine

what would happen if you just used

imagine until I got around to telling

you all the details and other cool ways

you can do it - cool okay you probably

already know this is beautiful right

because you don't want to be the expert

even though you are you don't want to be

the answer to every question this person

has even though you probably

or else you wouldn't be in the situation

right now you don't want to be the

absolute perfect solution to everything

even though you probably are in this

situation you want to say you know you

probably already know that what you

probably already know what the best

restaurant to go to is what is to just

tell me just tell me because I don't

know you probably already know the best

car to drive I mean I really don't I

don't know anything about cars the only

thing I know about cars as you get in

them you turn the key and it it goes if

you push it in Reverse it goes backwards

that's what I know about cars

you probably already know so you

probably already know it presupposes

that you know and I probably don't cool

so once again I'm putting myself into

the sort of secondary role into the

subjugated role and I'm giving another

person complete control and this person

at that point when they sit like if you

say you probably already know that the

market has doubled in the last 18 months

it has - it's pretty crazy right this

dough is at fifteen thousand five

hundred and just eighteen months ago or

twenty four months ago was at what

seventy five hundred eight thousand

pretty amazing so you probably already

know that now as soon as I say you

probably already know even though you

didn't know that you know that right

it would be very hard for somebody to

admit that they don't really know what I

just suggested that they know so as soon

as you say you probably already know and

then you fill it in that person is

pretty much mentally and emotionally

obligated to agree with whatever you say

with and make it as if it's just obvious

information now on that same concept in

that same train of thought is would you

be surprised and I'll just stop it right

there would you be surprised and the

answer is always no to this it's always

no would you be surprised if and then

you can fill in anything you want and

the person's never surprised and this is

great because even though people love to

hear surprises surprise means

something's blisteringly obvious okay

the person has to agree with it would

you be surprised if you found out to the

market doubled in the last five years

would you be surprised if you heard that

gold went up a

bucks an ounce in the last five days

would you be surprised if you found out

that bonds are actually starting to lose

money and investors are losing cash that

are investing in mortgage-backed

securities and things like this that

there's better places to put their money

would you be some and of course the

person has to say no I wouldn't be

surprised of course I know that I'm not

dumb

of course I know that right cool all

right going back to some of the more

traditional language patterns the ones

that the old guys have taught for for

quite a few years I have a couple of

favorites and for difficult situations

they go like this I wouldn't tell you to

do this people don't want to be told

what to do they don't want to be told

even a hint of what to do so when you

say I wouldn't tell you to go to the

store and buy that I wouldn't tell you

to go you know and and decide between

the movies tonight I wouldn't tell you I

wouldn't tell you anything and when you

say that this is one of my favorite

old-time patterns that the old guys

developed years and years ago and I

think it's a pretty cool pattern that

you can use to they're the one that I

really like in these kind of situations

is if you could choose like you know

which way to go what would you do like

you know here you are you could choose

between buying some gold you could

choose between investing in stocks you

could choose bonds if you could choose

what would you do and I'm an investment

portfolio manager right or I'm a

certified financial planner that's

talking with you you know if you could

choose between restaurants you wanted to

go to tonight which one would you choose

these two patterns are really cool from

the old days now a couple that are all

clumped into one a lot of times people

think that because they think that he

wants to be stroked over there and feel

really good about himself that we should

always say positive things about him

like you know you're a really astute

investor I can tell or you're a really

sharp buyer or you are a smart woman or

you are a wise shopper all of this rings

of being trite bogus completely unreal

ridiculous and it makes you sound stupid

the thing only a would would know

not to do this right only an idiot

wouldn't invest in gold right now only a

fool wouldn't put some of their money

into stocks while the market is in a

bull market only someone without a real

effective working brain would not put

some money into bonds just because of

safety of the of the government and only

a jerk would be mean and do something

like that

only a dweeb would who actually go and

do that see by doing this it sounds real

it's authentic it's impossible to then

for that person to play the role of

somebody who wants to say no to whatever

it is you're going to do because they'd

be a or an idiot or a goofball or

they'd be a dweeb or a jerk and none of

those things are good and so by

assigning a negative role to the person

who would not do this whatever this is

here today that person is then going to

be well not absolutely a hundred percent

certain to say yes to you but 90 percent

plus 90 percent of the time cool okay

guys have a great day I'll see you here

next time