Senior High School
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Personal Development
Quarter 2 - Module 2
Dynamics of Commitment
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Quarter 2 - Module 2: Dynamics of Commitment
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Dynamics of Commitment
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Table of Contents
What This Module is About……………………………………………………………………….i
What I Need to Know……………………………………………………………………………..i
How to Learn from this Module………………………………………………………………….ii
Icons of this Module……………………………………………………………………………....ii
What I Know….…………………………………………………………………………………...iii
Lesson 1: Being Responsible in a Healthy Relationship
What I Need to Know……………………….……………………………….…..1
What’s New: Friendship Stoplight Analogy ………………………………..….2
What Is It: Important Aspects for Health Relationships .............................. ..3
What’s More: Becoming Responsible in a Relationship……………….…….5
What I Can Do: Journal Reflection ............................................................ ..6
Summary…………………………………………………………………………………………..7
Assessment: (Post Test) ……………………………………………………………………….8
Key to Answers……………………………………………………………………………..........10
References…………………….…………………………………………………………............12
What This Module is About
Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships
that you make in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some
of the most important lessons about who you are. Truly good relationships take time and
energy to develop.
This module contains varied activities that can help you build, become responsible,
and maintain a good relationship with your family, friends, and significant other by identifying
the appropriate way of expressing your attraction, love, and commitment to them. Important
aspects of healthy relationships will be tackled. This module focused on taking
responsibility in a relationship.
What I Need to Know
At the end of this module, you should be able to:
1. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship (ESP-PD11/12PR-Iii-9.3)
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How to Learn from this Module
To achieve the objectives cited above, you are to do the following:
• Take your time to read the lessons carefully.
• Follow the directions and/or instructions in the activities and exercises diligently.
• Answer all the given tests and exercises.
Icons of this Module
This part contains learning objectives that
What I Need to Know are set for you to learn as you go along the
module.
This is an assessment as to your level of
knowledge of the subject matter at hand,
What I know
meant specifically to gauge prior related
knowledge.
This part connects the previous lesson with
What’s In
that of the current one.
An introduction to the new lesson through
What’s New various activities, before it will be
presented to you.
These are discussions of the activities as a
What is It way to deepen your discovery and
understanding of the concept.
These are follow-up activities that are
What’s More intended for you to practice further to
master the competencies.
Activities designed to process what you
What I Have Learned
have learned from the lesson.
These are tasks that are designed to
showcase your skills and knowledge
What I can do
gained and applied to real-life concerns
and situations.
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Lesson
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY IN A
1 RELATIONSHIP
What I Need to Know
Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is
compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life.
Research shows that a healthy relationship can help you live longer, deal with stress, be
healthier, and feel richer.
Imagine this scenario: "Why would you put ketchup all over my fries? " Jacks asked.
Then Jill replied, "Well, you should've told me that you don't like ketchup!". This is an
example of how oftentimes people deflect ownership of their behaviors and play the blame
game. Is Jack responsible for his ketchup-covered fries, or should Jill have taken
responsibility for her behavior? Taking responsibility in your relationship is the
acknowledgment and ownership of every action and word you say and do.
Why taking responsibility is important? Taking ownership and responsibility for your
actions is an important part of healthy relationships. Doing so is an empowering reminder
that you have control over the role you play in your relationship. Taking responsibility creates
trust and dependability. When you take responsibility for your behaviors, you demonstrate to
your partner, family, and friends that your willingness to be honest and vulnerable, which
encourages them to be open and authentic with you.
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What’s New
Activity 1. Friendship Stoplight Analogy
Directions: Recognize examples of positive and negative behaviors related to healthy and
unhealthy relationships. The purpose of this activity is to explore relationships
using a stoplight analogy. Copy the table on a separate sheet of paper and
color the circle corresponding to your answer.
⚫ RED – Stop! These are bad signs of a relationship.
⚫ YELLOW – Caution! These are warning signs of a relationship.
⚫ GREEN – Go! These are good signs of a friendship!
1. You are afraid of your friend’s 9. Your friend threatens to hurt you.
temper.
2. You enjoy being with this 10. You say that you agree with your
person but you also enjoy friends, even though you don't.
spending time with other You are afraid they won't be your
friends. friend anymore if you disagree
with them.
3. Your friend pressures you to 11. You rarely get to plan what the
do things you do not want to two of you will do together.
do.
4. Your friend tells you not to 12. You are nervous that if you tell
hang out with certain people. your friend something personal,
he/she will tell other people at
school.
5. You usually feel happy when 13. Your friend is happy when good
you are with this person. things happen to you and
celebrates your successes.
6. Your friends talk to you about 14. Your friends sometimes make fun
his/her feelings. of you.
7. Your friend criticizes you or the 15. Your friend respects your feelings
people you care about. and your opinions.
8. Your friend bullies and makes
fun of other people at school.
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What Is It
The situations given in the previous activity can all apply to your family and significant
other or partner. Learn to recognize examples of people who engage in negative behaviors
that lead to unhealthy relationships. These are some important aspects of healthy
relationships.
Important Aspects for Healthy Relationships
Adapted from Woititz, J., Adult Children of Alcoholics
Mutual Respect Do I treat the other person as if he/she is of value?
Compassion Do I have a genuine concern for the issues that cause the other
person's concern?
Empathy To what degree am I able to allow myself to be open to what he/she
feels?
Understanding Do I try to understand the other person, what they say or do?
Acceptance Can I feel I am okay the way I am? Do I accept him/her as he/she is?
Honesty Is the relationship built on truthfulness, or are there games involved?
Trust To what degree am I willing to let the other person know private
aspects of my thoughts, feelings, and life?
Good Can we talk freely about issues that are important to relationships?
Communication Do we know how to talk so we each are understood and sharing is
safe?
Consideration Am I mindful of the other person’s needs as well as my own?
Compatibility To what extent do we like and value the same things?
Mutual Enjoyment In areas of disagreement, are we able to agree or disagree?
Personal Integrity Am I able to maintain my beliefs and sense of self as well as offer my
time and attention to the relationship?
Vulnerability To what degree can I let down my barriers and allow the other person
to see my perceived weaknesses, without fear of negative reactions
from them?
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How to become responsible in real life?
Taking responsibility is not just a one-sided practice. It looks like practicing self-
awareness. The following ways to use the empowering action of taking responsibility are
important for you and your family, friends, or partner to use and practice in your relationship.
1. Be Honest
“You have to love yourself before you love others” is a versatile phrase that has
multiple meanings when applied to relationships. It can translate to “You have to be honest
with yourself before you can be honest with others.” Being honest with yourself begins with a
healthy sense of self-awareness. And being self-aware means you acknowledge that what
you say and do impacts your family, friends, and partner.
For example:
Referring back to the ketchup situation, imagine you’re Jill. A healthy response would be to
take ownership of her actions and respond with something like, “Oh, I’m sorry! I should have
asked you before I added ketchup. I did not realize you didn’t like ketchup, and this is my
mistake.”
2. Act on Situations, Don’t React
When people are held accountable for their behaviors, they often become defensive.
Getting defensive is a reaction. When you act on a situation, you can respond with clarity
and awareness. You can practice acting on situations instead of reacting by taking deep
breaths or counting to ten. It also helps to take a second and look at the situation from your
partner’s perspective. It can be hard to think from the other perspective, especially in the
heat of the moment. By being honest with yourself and your partner, you can effectively
respond by taking responsibility.
For example:
Jill is reacting to Jack being upset instead of acting on her need to take responsibility. Acting
instead of reacting allows you to clearly define a self-aware and honest answer to unhealthy
behavior.
3. Be Willing to Forgive Your Other People and Yourself
Everyone makes mistakes and forgiving yourself or your partner is important for moving past
challenges and making your relationship stronger. When you view taking responsibility for
your mistakes as an opportunity to learn, your relationship can become a place that fosters
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and celebrates growth. Forgiveness builds trust and accountability in your relationship,
breaks down resentment, and stops the never-fun "blame game."
Taking responsibility for your behaviors in your relationship requires honest and open
communication and a willingness to address unhealthy excuses with your family, friends, and
partner. They’re not always easy discussions to have, but you’ll find that doing so builds trust
within your relationship over time and is an empowering way to learn and grow.
What’s More
Activity 2. Becoming Responsible in a Relationship
Directions: Divide your paper into two columns and identify healthy and unhealthy
relationships. Consider your choices as someone being responsible in a
relationship.
1. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person.
2. You do not try to control each other. There is an equal amount of giving and take.
3. You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.
4. There are communication, sharing, and trust. You feel safe to share secrets.
5. You feel that you give more attention to them than they give to you. You feel controlled.
6. You don’t communicate, share or trust.
7. You like to spend time together but also enjoy doing things apart.
8. You feel pressured to spend time together and you feel guilty when you’re both apart from
each other.
9. You feel the need to be someone that you are not.
10. It’s easy to be yourself when you are with them.
11. You respect each other's opinions. You listen and try to understand their point of view
even if you don't always agree with them.
12. You feel the need to be someone that you are not.
13. There is no fear in your relationship.
14. You feel there’s no respect for you or your opinion. You are not able to disagree.
15. You feel fear in your relationship.
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What I Can Do
Activity 3: Journal Reflection
Directions: Knowing the ways to nurture your relationship with others, reflect and write in
your journal the following:
1. Write possible ways on how you will change your unhealthy relationship with them
into a healthy relationship (if there's any).
2. What are the things you can do or promise to yourself to become responsible for
maintaining the healthy relationship you have with other people?
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Summary
1. Important aspects to nurture a relationship are the following: mutual respect,
compassion, empathy, understanding, acceptance, honesty, trust, good
communication, consideration, compatibility, mutual enjoyment, personal dignity,
vulnerability.
2. To become responsible in a relationship in real life requires practicing self-
awareness. The following ways to use the empowering action of taking responsibility
are important for you and your family, friends, or partner to use and practice in your
relationship.
✓ Be Honest
✓ Act on Situations, Don’t React
✓ Be Willing to Forgive Your Other People and Yourself
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ACTIVITY 9: Characteristics of Healthy and Unhealthy Relationship
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
You feel good about yourself when you’re You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.
around the other person.
You do not try to control each other. You feel that you give more attention to
There is an equal amount of giving and them than they give to you. You feel
take. controlled.
There are communication, sharing, and You don’t communicate, share or trust.
trust. You feel safe to share secrets.
You like to spend time together but also You feel fear in your relationship.
enjoy doing things apart.
There is no fear in your relationship. You feel the need to be someone that
It’s easy to be yourself when you are with you are not.
them.
You feel there’s no respect for you or your You feel pressured to spend time
opinion. You are not able to disagree. together and you feel guilty when you’re
both apart from each other.
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