What Parents Can Do To Help Their Child Succeed in School
What Parents Can Do To Help Their Child Succeed in School
Message
We are pleased to provide this Tool Kit for Parents and hope
that it will be shared widely with all those who guide and
teach our children. It is important to support the learning
process at home.
It is our hope that you will find useful tips and suggestions
in this Kit and that these ideas will lead to what you will find
useful for your family.
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Foreword
Foreword
This Parent Tool Kit has been developed for parents. It can
be shared widely with family members and caregivers. It
is intended to support the work parents do as the first and
most important teachers of their children.
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A Message from the Council of Ontario
Directors of Education. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Foreword. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
Introduction. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
Be a Coach. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8
Math Matters. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Powerful Presentations. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12
Be a Mentor. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14
Be an Advocate. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20
Talking to Teachers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22
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Stay Informed. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24
Contents
Fitting it all in . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28
Resources. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38
Acknowledgements . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42
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Introduction
Why should you be engaged
in your child’s learning?
Your child benefits! You benefit!
• Students get better grades and • You can learn how to help your
test scores. child with homework.
• Students have greater self- • Your knowledge of school
esteem and greater motivation. systems and procedures make it
• Attendance at school is better. easier for you to access needed
supportive programs.
• The number of suspensions
is less. • You can access resources about
parenting strategies.
• Students stay in school longer
and have higher graduation • You will find it easier to create a
rates. healthy home environment.
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Parents play a vital role in the
development and education of their
children and in the success of schools.
They are the most important influence
in a child’s life outside of school. Long
after direct learning from parents in a
child’s early years gives way to formal
education, parents continue to play
a key role in student success through
the attitudes they help to shape and
the direct supports they provide.
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We would love to help
out at the school but
we both work and
don’t have time. We
feel guilty about not
being involved.
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You don’t have to
be a volunteer to
be involved in your
child’s education.
Be a Coach
Research shows
that learning at
home is one of the
most beneficial
ways to help your
child succeed.
TIPS
1. Show an interest.
2. Make every day an
opportunity to learn.
3. Encourage your
child to investigate,
discover and imagine.
4. Work and play
together.
5. Read with your child.
6. Help them find math
everywhere.
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Read and Write for pleasure
and fun
Write at Work
and Play As your children get older suggest
that they create and write their own
Everyone benefits with good stories or write a new ending for a
reading skills. Reading includes book they like. Teens can use blogs
more than books. Newspapers, and create their own online book
magazines, package directions, club.
street signs and websites all offer a
chance for children to practise their Encourage them to write letters or
reading skills. emails to their friends and family.
Tell stories with pictures. Use a
When your children are young read camera to document a trip. Use the
with them. Grab their interest and pictures and write the script for a
spark their imagination by letting movie or slide show.
them tell you what is coming next.
Use the newspaper and TV
Telling stories about your life and commercials to make reading and
your family is a good way to make writing meaningful. Talk about
reading fun and start the writing the messages they see. Use the
process. If English is not your first newspaper to make puzzles and
language, reading is still important. story teasers. Cut up the comic
Read in your own language. strips — remake or create a new
Maintain your culture. story. Cut out a story and ask them
to re-create the headline.
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Use pictures to write.
Let them tell
Public Libraries offer reading times
you what is and book clubs for all ages.
coming next.
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Be a Coach
Math Matters Learning at home
gives your child more
Math can be found in everyday opportunities to
activities. Use them to make math
practise what they
meaningful.
learned in school
Cook together to make sense
of fractions. Use a hands-on approach
to learning.
How many labels do you need to
collect to send away for the prize? Hobbies, games, arts and crafts
use math too.
Show them how to budget their
money. Comparison shop at the Model building and making your
grocery store. Which brand or which own clothes are fun and can teach
size container is the best buy? Is the your child about measurement.
name brand clothing or electronic
worth the extra money? Building a bird house reinforces
concepts like proportion. Making
Use sports games to teach puzzles develops critical
math concepts. thinking skills.
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maintain a car?
to learning. 11
Powerful If you have a video camera, film
There are many times when your If you have a computer with a
child will be asked to present to the microphone, they can record their
class, to parents and to others. presentation and listen to the
recording.
You can help your child practise oral
speaking skills. Start with reading Presentation software often includes
out loud. Children of all ages can the voice-recording feature. Let
role-play and read with expression them create a recorded slide
and meaning. Children can practise presentation.
the art of story telling.
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Children can
practise the
art of story
telling.
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Be a Coach
Take a Virtual Ask your child’s teacher if there
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I really want to help
but I don’t understand
what the teacher
expects. When I went
to school we didn’t do
it like that.
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You don’t need to
know how to do the
homework to help.
Be a Mentor
Talk to your child’s
teacher.
When teachers
and parents are
on the same page
students do better
in school.
TIPS
1. Praise successes.
2. Don’t dwell on
mistakes.
3. Give them the
confidence to seek
help from their
teacher.
4. Help them track their
progress.
5. Use a problem solving
model to work on
assignments and
projects.
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Whose How can parents help
their child become a
Homework self-directed learner?
Is It?
Parents can help their child
become a self-directed learner
Parents often say: by encouraging their child to use
a problem solving approach to
“ One of the hardest things homework. Here is an example that
I have found when describes how a parent can use the
helping my child is that problem solving approach.
I don’t understand the
homework myself.” Problem solving scenario:
Frequently, parents are under the Parent: What are you supposed to do?
impression that they should be able
to do the homework. They believe Student: I’m supposed to make a
that they should be reading the presentation about how a material I
textbook and trying to teach their can find at home is manufactured.
child how to solve a problem or
complete the homework. Although Parent: OK. Let’s both think of some…
understandable and well intentioned, Which ones might you choose?
using this approach can create
confusion and frustration for both Student: Glass and brick…
parents and children.
Parent: And paint and dry wall, wire,
What many people do not know is pipe… Can you think of any more?
that one of the key things parents
can do to help their children succeed Student: metal
is to help them take responsibility
for their own learning. All students, Parent: Great list we’ve got… now
elementary and secondary, can which one do you think you want
benefit from learning how to become to use?
a self-directed learner.
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Be a Mentor
Student: Brick! More problem-
solving type questions
Parent: Well, why don’t you check and statements that
out a few websites about how brick is
you can use
made and see if you can make a good
presentation about it? • Let’s talk about your
schoolwork.
Student: I can’t find much out about
• What were you asked to do?
brick. Do you think I should change?
• Can you show me how you got
Parent: Well, why don’t you check your answer?
out how another couple on the list we • Have you seen how someone
made and decide which one you’d like else did it?
to present?
• Try looking at your problem
While this may look like a simple again.
conversation, if you look at it closely • If you can’t find a solution, let’s
you may see the parent used ask for help from your teacher.
some purposeful questions. These When will you be able to ask
questions form a model or approach for more help?
to solving problems and can be
summarized in these 4 steps.
Examples of writing, science and Create a free Google web site and
math projects, reading responses, store digital examples online.
artwork and student favourites are
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suitable choices.
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We are not sure
how best to talk to
the teachers. We
worry that they
won’t understand
our child.
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You will worry
less, if you are
informed and
Be an Advocate
understand how
the school works.
Start talking to
the teacher early
in the year.
TIPS
1. Communicating on
behalf of your child
helps teachers get a
bigger picture of your
child’s strengths and
weaknesses.
2. Build a good working
relationship with the
school and your child’s
teachers.
3. Teachers like to
know they have your
support.
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Talking to will help make the conversation
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Be an Advocate
Make Every Use the dinner table at home or at
How your child interacts with other Teach them about respecting
students and adults has an impact other people’s personal space and
on their learning. Children who are property. Reward them with praise
respectful and considerate make when they stand quietly in a store,
good team members. Group work refrain from touching merchandise
becomes easier when children know and avoid bumping into others.
how to get along with each other.
Taking turns and praising others are Secondary school students find it
learned habits. just as hard to act appropriately.
They may be challenged by peer
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pressure and may rebel against
authority and adult standards. A
consistent non-confrontational
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Checking up on
homework and
being aware of
the homework are
Stay Informed
good ways to keep
up on your child’s
progress. TIPS
Get past the 1. Talk to your child’s
“nothing” answers. teachers by agenda
Ask them specific book, phone, face to
questions about face and email.
something they
learned. 2. Check for information
on the school and the
teacher’s website.
3. Use an inbox and
outbox for notes to
and from school.
4. Hang a wall size
planning calendar
to remember
assignments, due
dates and school
events.
5. Seek help from
families in your
community who can
translate. Network
with other parents.
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Reinforce What Parents
Classroom Can Do To Stay
Learning at Informed
Home
School and
When your child is studying classroom events
Canadian Explorers watch a movie
about Canadian Explorers. If there Try setting up an “in and out”
is a TV show about Canadian basket for your child’s agenda
Explorers, watch it together. book, newsletters, notes home and
lunch orders. There may be some
Ask your child to pick out key dates days when your paths do not cross.
in their unit of studies and challenge For older students try a shared
them to find a match on the “Day Google calendar. A few minutes of
in History” feature of the History organizing every day will keep you
Channel. “Jacques Cartier enters up to date and help your child be
the St. Lawrence on June 9, 1543” responsible for managing
his/her time.
Do a web search on “Canadian
Explorers” to find good examples. If your child’s teacher has a website,
check regularly for information. If
Put the search terms in “quotes” for it is a blog, subscribe to it. Using
more accurate and fewer results. Twitter? Encourage your teacher to
tweet out homework assignments to
Connect with the teacher for a your Twitter account or text to your
heads up on the units of study and mobile. Sign up for the School and
suggested enrichment activities that the School Board e-newsletter.
you can do at home.
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Stay Informed
Beyond the school The “abc 123 Reach Every Student”
section of the Ontario Ministry of
Before you start looking for Education website has extensive
additional resources beyond the links and information to help you
school talk to your child’s teachers, help your child succeed.
school librarian and principal first.
They will be able to direct you to http://www.edu.gov.on.ca/
materials best suited to your child. abc123/eng/
http://www.edu.gov.on.ca
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Our children
are involved in
extracurricular
activities and
there isn’t a
spare minute.
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Taking a few
minutes to
organize your
Fitting it all in
family will save
time and reduce
stress.
Students who
arrive at school
calm and ready to
learn will do better
in school.
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Organize Your and self-confidence. Establishing
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oatmeal take longer to digest than
Help them sugar cereals keeping your child’s
energy high for an active brain.
develop their
own inner
clock.
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Fitting it all in
Take pictures of your child getting important. Help prevent homework
ready for school and post them overload, break assignments
on the fridge as a reminder of the and studying into manageable
steps needed to get ready on time. pieces. Studying for tests will be
Help them develop their own inner less stressful if your child does
clock. Use a large day planner something every day. If there is
on the Fridge. Mark down school no homework, then make it quiet
happenings, homework assignments reading time. Some downtime
and tests. Share a calendar on the is good.
family computer or online.
Create a school
space at home
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The Teenage Years
Be assertive, but
not intrusive.
TIPS
1. Use open-ended
questions.
2. Take an interest in
what they are learning
online.
3. Help give them
confidence to
overcome barriers.
4. Support them if
they make mistakes.
Wrong answers lead
to right answers.
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Beating the questions “what is it like studying
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Remember to use the school’s
Ask website to check on activities and
events. Communicate early and
open-ended often with your child’s teachers by
phone or email, if you can’t make
questions. the curriculum night. If you don’t
have time to volunteer, try to attend
workshops or guest speaker events.
You will connect with other parents
Teenagers still need structure, and you will find out you are
routine and supervision. A good not alone.
way to reduce the one-word answer
to “what did you do today” is to let
your child start the conversation.
Asking them “how was your day?”
may require them to revisit things
that did not go well. Giving them
the space to reflect on their day will
allow them to regroup. Your teen will
grow to trust you as a mentor and
guide in their lives. Ask open-ended
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The Teenage Years
Raising their social network but respect
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Develop rules and
expectations together about
working on the Internet. 35
Using the Have your child use the “How, Who,
How can you be sure that the • How did you get to the website?
information you have found online Did you use a search engine or
is credible or relevant? Websites personal recommendation?
are not like books. There is no code • Who wrote the information? Can
to use to verify the accuracy of the you identify the author?
information. Students often use
• What are your findings? Is the
Wikipedia (encyclopedia created by
information relevant?
its users) as their information source
without confirming if the information • Where is the owner of the
is correct. website located?
• When was the website created?
• Why are you researching this
topic?
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Websites
are not
like books.
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The Teenage Years
Sharing Make sure that
they know!
Information on
the Internet — Photos posted online only need
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Help on the Net
http://gov.edu.on.ca
You can find information about:
TVOParents
http://www.tvo.org/cfmx/tvoorg/tvoparents
TVO parents is an online resource for parents of preschool and school aged
children and features a live weekly interactive parenting event.
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Resources
OERB Ontario Education Resource Bank
http://www.edu.gov.on.ca/elearning/bank.html
Ontario Education Resource Bank is an online library of activities and
resource materials for students of all grades. Students can participate
in online exercises and activities that they can do at home to reinforce
learning. Parents can assist their children using the Ontario Education
Resource Bank by using their student’s account. Please ask your school for
the login information, if your child has not already brought it home.
http://school.discoveryeducation.com/sciencefaircentral/
Parent-Resources.html
Discovery Education has a large number of educational resources. A
section of their website concentrates on Science Fair Tips and Tricks such
as “presentation do’s and don’ts; student checklist; shopping list and how
to deliver an oral presentation”. Parents and students can find advice from
“how help their child come up with an idea for the project” to “setting a
timeline”.
Creating E-Portfolios
http://middleschoolblog.blogspot.com/2009/09/
eportfolio-talk-with-grade-9-learners.html
Especially good for secondary school students. This short video
outlines the use of an e-portfolio and how to create one.
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Digital Story Telling
http://digitalstorytelling.coe.uh.edu/index.html
This website explains the use of digital storytelling and how a variety
of images, text, video and more can be used to create digital stories.
You will find examples, definitions and explanatory videos.
Public Speaking
http://publicspeakingskills.org/public_speaking_for_kids.php
Tips on public speaking for kids. This site gives suggestions for how
to practise their skills for speaking in public and overcome the fear of
public speaking.
Internet Safety
http://www.media-awareness.ca
In this website you will find resources and support for everyone interested
in media literacy and digital literacy for young people. “Be Web Aware”
covers subjects such as homework online, internet safety, social networking
(Facebook), instant messaging and cell phone usage.
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Resources
Eat Well and Stay Active
https://www.eatrightontario.ca
The EatRight Ontario website is set up to help you improve your health
and quality of life through healthy eating. This service provides easy-to-
use nutrition information to help you make healthier food choices. You
can contact a dietician directly by email or toll free phone call.
http://www.edu.gov.on.ca/eng/healthyschools/links.html
Healthy schools offers tips and tools for parents to help keep your child
healthy and active.
Online Learning
http://www.edu.gov.on.ca/elearning/courses.html
School Boards across Ontario offer a variety of online learning
courses for secondary students. Students can find course offerings for
the school year. The delivery of online learning includes a wide range
of activities such as chat, threaded discussion, blogs, whiteboards,
quizzes, and student tracking. Consult with your school board for
access to online learning courses and requirements.
http://kidshelpphone.ca
Kids Help Phone is Canada’s leading youth counselling service.
Available anytime of the day or night by phone and by web, it is the
go-to resource for kids in Canada from years five to 20 when they
need help or trustworthy information. Designed for both teens and
younger children the activities cover a wide range of topics. Moderated
discussion forums let students publish their thoughts on the web.
The resources listed in this document are not specifically endorsed by the Council of
Ontario Directors of Education. The resources are merely intended to make parents
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Acknowledgements
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