PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT: am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want

to be (the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of mental

KNOWING ONESELF well-being or peace of mind. If the way that I am is not
aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack
Self-Concept of alignment, will result in mental distress or anxiety.
The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal
⎯ your awareness of yourself
self and real self, the greater the level of resulting
⎯ connotes first the identification of the ideal self
distress. Personal development modules ultimate aim is
as separate from others, and second, it
greater self-knowledge that will lead to higher
encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the
alignment between these two personality domains.
actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal
self
⎯ Two Broad Categories of Self-Concept: Personal Effectiveness
▪ Actual Self ⎯ means making use of all the personal resources
⎯ the one that you actually see/who – talents, skills, energy and time, to enable you
we actually are to achieve life goals
⎯ has characteristics that you were ⎯ depends on our innate characteristics – talent
nurtured or, in some cases, born to and experience accumulated in the process of
have personal development
⎯ how we think, how we feel, look,
and act Talents – needed to be identified and then developed
⎯ can be seen by others, but because to be used in a particular subject area (science,
we have no way of truly knowing literature, sports, politics, etc.)
how others view us, the actual self
is our self-image Experience – includes knowledge and skills that we
▪ Ideal Self acquire in the process of cognitive and practical
⎯ the self that you aspire to be/ how activities
we want to be
⎯ the one that you hope will possess Knowledge – required for setting goals, defining an
characteristics similar to that of a action plan to achieve them and risk assessment
mentor or some other worldly
figure Skills
⎯ an idealized image that we have ⎯ determine whether real actions are performed
developed over time, based on in accordance with the plan
what we have learned and ⎯ if the same ability is used many times in the
experienced same situation, then it becomes a habit that
⎯ could include components of what runs automatically, subconsciously
our parents have taught us, what ⎯ Some Skills That Will Greatly Increase the
we admire in others, what our Efficiency of Any Person Who Owns Them:
society promotes, and what we ▪ Determination
think is in our best interest
⎯ allows you to focus only on
achieving a specific goal without
Self-Knowledge being distracted by less important
⎯ derived from social interactions that provide things or spontaneous desires
insight into how others react to you ⎯ may be developed with the help of
⎯ the actual self is built on self-knowledge self-discipline exercise
▪ Self-confidence
There is negotiation that exists between the two selves ⎯ appears in the process of personal
which is complex because there are numerous development, as a result of getting
exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These aware of yourself, your actions and
exchanges are exemplified in social roles that are their consequences
adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived from ⎯ manifested in speech, appearance,
outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult dressing, gait, and physical
development. Alignment is important. If the way that I condition
 ⎯ you need to learn yourself and your
capabilities, gain positive attitude
and believe that by performing
right actions and achieving right
goals you will certainly reach
success to develop it
▪ Persistence
⎯ makes you keep moving forward
regardless of emerging obstacles –
problems, laziness, bad emotional
state, etc.
⎯ reduces the costs of overcoming
obstacles
⎯ can also be developed with the help
of self- discipline exercise
▪ Managing stress
⎯ helps combat stress that arises in
daily life from the environment and
other people
⎯ increases efficiency in the actively
changing environment
⎯ Stress – arises from the uncertainty
in an unknown situation when a
lack of information creates the risk
of negative consequences of your
actions
▪ Problem-solving skills
⎯ help cope with the problems
encountered with a lack of
experience
⎯ increases efficiency by adopting
new ways of achieving goals when
obtaining a new experience
▪ Creativity
⎯ allows you to find extraordinary
ways to carry out a specific action
that no one has tried to use
⎯ can lead to a decrease or an
increase of costs, but usually the
speed of action is greatly increased
when using creative tools
▪ Generating ideas
⎯ helps you achieve goals using new,
original, unconventional ideas
⎯ can use a method of mental maps,
which allows you to materialize,
visualize and scrutinize all your
ideas, which in turn contributes to
the emergence of new ideas
⎯ Idea – a mental image of an object
formed by the human mind, which
can be changed before being
implemented in the real world