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POSITIVE
PARENTING
SESSION ONE
What being
a parent’s
really like!
THE ROLLER
COASTER OF
PARENTING!
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The term parent applies to
the mother and father responsible for their child’s birth
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the actions of a mother and a father in caring for and raising a child
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other people who care for a child by serving the role of mother or father, such as
adoptive parents and foster parents
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Parenting involves
• meeting the child’s needs
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• guiding a child toward the goal of becoming a competent adult
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• caring for children and helping them grow and develop
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The Changes that Parenthood Brings
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• Changes in relationships -;DaGwdf kl/jt{g_
• Employment -sdfO{_
• Irreversibility -ckl/jlt{t_
Life Long Job
•Myth 1 : I should not learn parenting.
•Myth 2 : How I was raised, I should do the same.
•Myth 3 : My children will fulfill my dreams.
•Myth 4 : Exam result determine future.
•Myth 5 : Mother is only responsible for caring.
Four Parenting Styles
Diana Baumrid, a child psychologist found four
parenting styles from her research.
1. Authoritarian
2. Permissive
3. Authoritative / Assertive
4. Uninvolved
Authoritarian (Strict)
Permissive (Comfort)
Authoritative / Assertive
(Smart Parenting)
Uninvolved
Uninvolved
Catagories of Parents
What kind of parents are you?
1.Teaching Parents
2.Learning Parents
Mind Programming of our Children
1. Visual 70%
2. Auditor 20%
3. Action 10%
Children should watch good programs for positive
programming of their mind.
Games for Memory and
Concentration
• Chess • Sequence
• Crossword • Sudoku
• Jigsaw • Songs/Music
• Puzzle • Dance
• Cards • Story telling
Simple Way to Teach Our Child
•What they see, they do.
•What they did, they had seen them somewhere.
•Don’t force them to write
•Show pictures
Skeletal Development of the Hand of a
Child
*(source : Schmitt and Lanz, 2008)
A
Role of Cartoons
The popular cartoons that should not be shown to
our children.
1. Doreamon – make children lazy
2. Shinchan – teach bad behavior
3. Pepa Pig – show disrespect to parents
4. Oggy and the Cockroaches – violent and abusive
ADHD
A – Attention
D – Deficit
H – Hyperactivity
D – Disorder
Two Things Children should Avoid
1.Junk food
2.Long hours in mobile (Games and Movies)
These two things limit their brain development
and bring mental health problems, like weak
memories, low concentration, depression, suicidal
tendencies, etc.
Don’t feed your child watching TV or
mobile
1. Kids engaging in screen activities during meals can
divert children’s attention away from hunger and
fullness cues.
2. This may cause overeating, under eating, risk of
nutritional imbalance or deficiencies.
SESSION TWO
What being
a parent’s
really like!
How to Transform Weaknesses
(sdhf]/L)of your Child in Strength
(zlSt)
•Ask for improvement with your teacher.
1. Discuss/participate in class.
2. Ask questions on their doubts.
3. Listen with concentration or not.
4. Friendly with other friends or not.
•Should not ask in front of your child.
•Show positivity with your teacher.
Not to do in front of your child
• Criticize his/her teacher and
school.
• Casually making fun of
teachers and fellow student.
• Complaining about the
teaching styles.
How to develop flexible personality
in your child?
• 7 days habit practice experiment
in at least a year.
• Different food, place, people
that they do not like.
• This change in habit will help
them to cope up with change.
Difference Between React and
Respond
• Don’t react, just respond
• If something dropped or messed
up we should know how to
respond, do not react
immediately.
How to develop flexible personality
in your child?
• 7 days habit practice
experiment in at least a year.
• Different food, place, people
that they do not like.
• This change in habit will help
them to cope up with change.
Discipline
Discipline
How to teach discipline
1. Appreciate the work done by child not the child. Eg. Tell them how
much you have tried in your exam is highly appreciable.
2. Loud voices don’t make the message clear. Don’t yell and shout at
your child every time. Some times is desirable but only for their
benefit.
3. Don’t insult in front of other person, you can do it in alone.
4. Do not compare with others. Your child is unique.
How to develop self confidence in
your child
1. Initially all children are confident in the beginning.
2. Let them eat by themselves, let them jump and
play and other things what they like to do by
themselves like brushing, etc.
3. Do not correct them otherwise this will kill their
confidence.
4. Lets develop an independent child.
Why children lie to their parents
1. Honesty is the best policy.
2. We parents always try to educate our children on
the importance of telling truth. However, did you
ever think that no one else but you could be the
only reason behind your child’s honesty.
3. Parents teach their children to lie, often unintended.
4. They do not do what you tell, they do what you do.
Ethics ( g}ltstf )
How to develop honesty in our
kids
1.Model honesty at home.
2.Praise them when they tell truth
3.Stop labeling your child
4.Make them aware of the consequences of lying
5.Teach them honesty through fun games and activities
Concequences of Yelling and
Shouting
• They will make distance with you, develop low trust level. If ever
they make mistakes, they will fear to share with you.
• They develop aggressive behavior within and replicate the same
behavior with their junior.
• The confidence level becomes low, cannot express there feeling full
and stay sad and lonely.
• Then they will go around and search other person to convey their
feelings.
Consequences of yelling,
shouting and beating in the
1.
future
Kids start thinking nobody understands
their feelings.
2. Start stay alone and detached from parents.
3. They will show rude behavior to others.
4. Spend time with friends or social media.
5. Social media can be toxic to them in many
reasons.
6. These reasons may lead to depression,
anxiety or suicide.
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SESSION THREE
What being
a parent’s
really like!
Relationship and Child’s Mental
Health
Relationship and Child’s Mental
Health
Relationship and Child’s Mental
Health
Nurturing Relationship
Appreciating Failures
Appreciating Failures
Appreciating Failures
Suicidal Tendencies
Signs Someone May Be Suicidal
Preventing Suicides
How to cut back(stop) mobile
addiction for our children
1.We are the main reason to make habitual of mobele to our
children. Eg. When we become busy T.V. and mobile are the only wayout.
2.If we want our children not to watch TVs and mobiles, then first of
all we have to stop watching in front of them.
3.They do what they see.
4.If we want them to read books, then we have to take books first
and read in front of them.
What we are supposed to do
1. Talk positive things with them.
2. Don’t let them know, we have known that they are lying.
3. Listen to them, don’t make them listen, don’t lecture.
4. Talk with them, spend time with them
5. Let them share their problem with you and try to solve like a friend.
6. Success of our child’s life depends on their self image.
7. Let them think big and think ‘Nothing is Impossible’.
Lets Work on Self Image
1.Talk positive things with them.
2.Don’t let them know, we have known that they are lying.
3.Listen to them, don’t make them listen, don’t lecture.
4.Talk with them, spend time with them
5.Let them share their problem with you and try to solve like a
friend.
6.Success of our child’s life depends on their self image.
Self
Image
Imagine a scene
Kid come from school, rushed to mother at kitchen and wanted to
share about the events of school today but mother scolded the guy and
send her room. Then he called his father to tell about what happened
today at school and father also scolded him and said he is too busy and
not time to listen about the wasteful things. Now imagine what will
happen to that kid.
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