Positive Parenting
Developmental Stages
Parenting Styles
Tips and Techniques
Developmental Stages
Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages
care and attention neglected
Caring, uncaring,
Trust insecure
encourage to explore disapprove of exploration
independence self-doubt
encourage initiative discourage initiative
creator lack of self-worth
Boys
the nature of boy fantasy
like to read super-powers, science fiction, conflict,
violence, captain underpants, Pokemon and the
Guinness Book of Records
myth = boys don’t feel
mother’s “still face” experiment
(Michael Thompson)
Parenting Styles
Diana Bamrind
independence
Warmth, Supportive
maturity
self-reliance
self-control
curiosity
friendliness behavioral control
achievement -oriented
Parenting Style
Brick wall
•Authoritarian
•high in control
•value respect for
authority obedience
•discourage discussion
Jellyfish
•Permissive
•accepting and warm
•little control
•refuses to discipline
•allow children to set their own
rules and schedules and
activities
•let their children do whatever
they want
Backbone
•Authoritative
•controlling but flexible
•firm, with kindness, warmth and
love
•establish clear rules and
expectations and discuss with the
child.
•encourage independence with lots
of support
•consistency, fairness, and respect
Annie, aged 4, has
grabbed a ball from Luisa,
another child. You come back
Brickwall
right this minute
Parent
and give that ball
Jellyfish
do nothing
Parent
You come back
Annie, aged 4, has right this minute
grabbed a ball from Luisa, and give that ball
another child. back to Luisa
Brickwall Parent
Jellyfish Parent
do nothing
?
What would their child be like?
Children’s style
Easy children are calm, happy,
adaptable
Difficult children are often fussy,
easily upset, high strung, and
intense in their reactions.
Slow to warm up children tend to
withdraw to novelty, and gradually
become more positive with
experience.
What can we do?
How we say it.
tone of voice : calm, firm
eye contact
full attention
have patience
Structure
Setting up routine
Transition - explain before happening
"In 5 minutes, play time will be over,"
“We will leave the house in 10 minutes, please
finish your breakfast.
How to change a behavior with the
use of reward
When How
new behavior What explain desired
behavior and reward
behavior we
want to change pick 1 reward the child
be patient
6 month
How to change a behavior with the
use of reward
When
restore toys How
after play
“if you restore your
toys every time after
What you play, you can have
an extra bedtime
be patient story”
• be careful about giving rewards to behaviors that they know they should do anyway
• reward the “right” behavior
Reward
Reward your child with what they will be interested with
Some examples:
Reward 1 for doing their best at schoolwork: An
educational trip.
Reward 2 for doing their best at schoolwork: A special
cooked meal where you invite your child to cook with
you.
Reward 3 for doing their best at schoolwork: A parent
child date.
Empower them
provide options
allow time for them
to make decision
take action by
following what has
been decided
Redirect
For toddlers, redirect the to something similar.
“That is Tom’s paper. Here is your paper.”
“Peter needs that toy. Here is a toy for you.”
Redirect
State firmly what is not to be done
demonstrate how we do it or a better way
“We don’t hit. Pat my face gently.”
“Puzzle pieces are not for throwing. Let’s put
them in their places together”
Redirect II
Feeling
Parents don’t usually realize when they denial
children’s feeling.
this confuses and enrages the children
also teaches them not to know what their feelings
are - not to trust them.
as early as 2 years old, children can recognize
feelings when emotions are labeled by adult.
conversation 1
Child : Mommy, I am tired.
Mother : You couldn’t be tired. You just napped.
Child: (loud) But I’m tired.
Mother: You’re not tired. You’re just a little sleepy.
Let’s get dressed.
Child: No, I’m tired.
conversation 2
Child : That TV show was boring.
Mother : No it wasn’t. It was very interesting.
Child: It was stupid.
Mother: It was educational.
Child: It stunk.
Mother: Don’t talk that way!
Resources
Developmental stages
1.Yardsticks : Children in the classroom age 4-14 by Chip Wood
2.PBS parent
http://www.pbs.org/parents/childdevelopment/
3.Michael Thompson. All about boys
http://www.michaelthompson-phd.com/questions.htm
http://www.pbs.org/previews/raisingcain/
4.Raising Girls
http://www.pbs.org/parents/raisinggirls/
Parenting Styles
5.NYU Child study center
http://www.aboutourkids.org/articles/parenting_styleschildren039s_temperaments_match
6.Growing Miracles: What's Your Parenting Style?
http://www.healthlinkalberta.ca/Topic.asp?GUID={5BED023E-E418-4E83-8530-
D47B24503AE0}
Tips and Techniques
6. How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber and
Elaine Mazlish
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7. Child Behavior: What Parents Can Do to Change Their Child's Behavior
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/children/parents/behavior/
201.html (American Academy of Family Physicians)
8. How To Reward Your Kids For Learning Effort
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/64485/
how _to_reward_your_kids_for_ learning.html?cat=4
school website
From Kindergarten Through Third Grade: Children's
Beginning School Experiences
https://nces.ed.gov/pubsearch/pubsinfo.asp?
pubid=2004007
You've Got to be Kidding Problem Solving Activity
http://pbskids.org/arthur/games/yougottobekidding/
elf-Concept Lesson Plans
http://www.educationworld.com/a_lesson/lesson/
lesson085.shtml
Thai books
เด็กน้อยจากสรวงสวรรค์ Children are from Heaven
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